Is Decency For Everyone? by Ijeoma Nwala

Sometimes, it cost an effort to cover up. That extra piece of clothing, for decency’s sake, may be tedious, but worth it.

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This article is not for an odd, eccentric woman in a ridiculous outfit.  It is for the everyday woman, mothers, sisters, nieces, who are decent in every other way except for the way they dress. Horrendous and over-revealing outfits are now worn by every day people, dressing in clothes that seem to question the very essence of clothing.

Real decency is no longer a virtue valued by society. The very simple and profound meaning of decency has been corrupted. Being pure within oneself, being secure and knowing one’s values and self worth–this is what I believe decency is all about. Decency, according to the dictionary definition means being “not offensive to sexual mores in conduct and appearance”

Clothing is really a curtain that shields one from unnecessary attention from others; most importantly, it is meant to cover the sacred parts of a person and enhance the beauty of the individual. Yet, closer look at this current trend makes one uncertain as to what would become of decent dressing in the near years.

I wouldn’t want to start condemning anyone, but neither can I applaud those who go around half naked, or even totally naked. Indecency, no matter how much justified is still indecent!

I know that dressing tastefully is sometimes hard. Staring endlessly at one’s wardrobe, trying to decide which way to go, what to put on;  this is even complicated with the chore of finding accessories to cover up , these are really crises.

Many just decide to wear what popular celebrities are wearing. Even though most popular celebrities tastes are awful, most stores just stock them up, sure of a surge in demand. So it is becoming more difficult in recent times to find decent clothes in stores. There’s a rapid change in our society which makes it even difficult to keep up.

Those whose job are to teach, like parents, are afraid to condemn what they see as wrong in their children’s dressing, for fear of being branded “uncool”. Though society has battled indecency since it was born, yet, only recently has it become a trend. It used to take effort to be indecent now it is the other way round. It is because indecent dressing has been ignored over the years, it has grown to become an epidemic

Condemning indecency may not involve forceful and aggressive reprimand but may take the form of a kind reproach. For instance, if in a bus, a teen girl is showing her butt, older women should call her attention to it. If many people talked to her on that bus ride, she would not show her butt next time. Its that simple.

Teens should be told that dressing well gets them a lot further in life. Many of them think that exposing their body or having it pierced is a statement of individuality, uniqueness, strength or rebellion against the dominant culture. This is a lie

They should also be told that saying no to an inappropriate cloth is in itself is an exhibition of strength and individual-mindedness.

Celebrities have a big role to play in fostering decency in the society. Sadly, they are not living up to that expectation

Today, a decently dressed person is a  real hero, having chosen to stay on the right path when everyone is going left.

Ijeoma Nwala is a law student at the University of Nigeria Nsukka.

 

 

 

 

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OPEN LETTER TO BAN KI-MOON, UN SECRETARY GENERAL

 

From Nwachukwu Joshua

Your Excellency,

I followed, with great interest, your visit on the 18th of this month, to the Nazi concentration camp at Auschwitz-Birkenau in Poland, where millions of Jews and members of other minorities perished during the Second World War under the directives of Hitler.

I must commend your visit because you are among the few world leaders that have visited this camp – a show of courage and strength that you have within. Auschwitz stands as a reminder to men of every time of man’s inhumanity to man.

During your emotional visit, you said  that Auschwitz-Birkenau is not simply a register of atrocities,” and that “In this haunting silence, we see the remnants of human life, we hear the cry of history and humanity. And through all of this, it becomes ever clearer that every life is precious. Every person matters1,”

You stressed, “For our shared future, let us embrace our common duty as members of the human family to build a world of peace, justice, equality and human dignity for all, the world must never forget, deny or downplay the Holocaust, we must remain ever on our guard. And we must do more, far more, to promote equality and fundamental freedoms.”

You also noted that anti-Semitism has not ended since flames of hatred and persecution have risen again to consume other societies – from the killing fields of Cambodia to the forests of Srebrenica and to the hills of Rwanda and that Anti-Semitism retains its hold in too many places. In Europe and elsewhere, migrants, Muslims, Roma and other minorities face rising discrimination.

Your Excellency, I agree with you totally that human life is precious and every person matters and that it is our common duty to fight for the right and freedom of all.

But I think that relegating the issue of anti-Semitism to only discrimination against religious belief though important is rather myopic in this current world.

When we speak about the Holocaust what comes to mind is how a group of people – the Jews, disabled persons, dissents, Poles, Sinti, Roma- were classified as “parasitic” races and “untermenschen” (sub humans) through the arbitrary will of one man( Hitler). This is a sorry situation which you said must never happen again, yet it is happening even now.

In America, Europe, China and elsewhere around the globe, today, governments have classified groups of people like the unborn, the sick, the elderly, the physically challenged as parasites and sub humans, without rights and thus their existence are subject to the discretion of others.

The legalisation of abortion and euthanasia is akin to the Nazi policy towards the Jews, even if camouflaged under the notion of freedom and equality. Innocent children are killed in the millions, the world over in the abortion clinics– the new gas chambers of the modern world. Children in the womb of their mothers are perceived as “diseases” to be cured; the sick and the elderly as “parasites” on the government coffers.

Sir, as Secretary General of the United Nations, I implore you today to be a worthy ambassador for the rights of the unborn, the elderly, and the physically challenged on the floor of the United Nations. I even think that the post of a special rapporteur should be created to be a voice for this voiceless group.

With your experience from the visit, I ask you to proclaim aloud that there is no other right more important than that of life, including the life of the unborn. The United Nations should assume the duty of protecting the lives of millions of unborn children, killed daily in China and many other places. The UN should help curb arbitrariness of leaders who assume the powers to determine when life begins and ends. These leaders who are the modern Hitler’s should be stopped and prosecuted.

And while you at it; please tell the United Nation agencies working in my continent, Africa, help us build institutions of learning and provide the basic amenities of life like water, primary health care. I say this because UN agencies and Foundations like that of Bill and Melinda Gates are flooding us with contraceptives and condoms. They say we need to reduce our population in order to achieve economic growth. Please, please, tell them to stop sending contraceptives and condoms to Africa. We are poor, not for lack contraceptives, but rather because of our corrupt leaders.  If they want to help, they should help us in fighting corruption, and in line with the UN charter. Thank you.

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The Fading Of Decent Dressing Among Teens Girls

 

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This is gradually fading

By, Uzodinma Chizaram

On the 8th of April 2012, 500 women under the Federal University of Technology Owerri Women’s Association (FUTOWA) staged a peaceful rally against indecent dressing amongst other things prevalent in tertiary institutions and organized a two-day intensive seminar for the female students in all tertiary institutions in Imo State. This is a commendable action, still it is worth examining how we have come to such a pass? Why is decency in dressing fading away in all areas today?

Decency in a way is relative to people’s culture and tradition. Thus, what one culture would consider normal and morally inoffensive would be considered indecent in another culture. For instance, when a local Indian woman wears a sari which exposes part of her belly, it may not be offensive and may not draw unnecessary attention to her. However if she wears this same clothing on the streets of Saudi Arabia, she may be arrested for immoral dressing. Nevertheless, Decency generally, has a universal connotation. It can be defined as dressing in accordance with the generally accepted standards of propriety and modesty, and in such a way as not to offend.

As the year’s go by, decency is no longer accorded the respect it used to have in many cultures, and modesty is a word many ladies today hardly know how to spell, talk less of living by it. Many teen girls following the crowd end up parading themselves half-naked in the streets in the name of fashion.

The reasons for the decline of the moral dress code can be attributed to the influence of the internet, social media, cable TV on fashion. Fashion is now universal, ladies (even married women) caught in the fever of “modern fashion trend” clad themselves in very skimpy clothing. Worse still, some parents dress their little girls in clothes that expose their bodies, even when going to church. Little wonder when these kids grow up to be comfortable in wearing such clothes and see nothing wrong with it– they have been nurtured that way. Furthermore, when the society does not frown at such act, it is actually encouraging it. Another major driver of indecency is “Peer pressure.” This is very common in the tertiary institution, where people from various backgrounds meet. Here, you may find that a girl who, coming from a responsible family where indecency is shunned, cajoled by her peers into dressing wildly.

 Indecency is a driver of sexual harassment and rape. It degrades women to sex objects. Never forget that your dress says a lot about who you are.

A well dressed lady is taken seriously at first impression. She is confident about who she is, and does not need to dress wildly to get people to notice her. Great women of today are those who succeed with hard work and determination not by flaunting their “sexuality”.

A well dressed lady attracts the right kind of people. It is like a truism: responsible men are attracted to well dressed ladies, and responsible ladies dress well. A well dressed woman portrays elegance and dignity of being a woman. Take a look at the queen of England, or an Arabian Princess and a look at a popular artiste’s female video vixen, the difference between them is clear. Finally, if she believes in God, she glorifies God through her dressing. Most religions uphold modesty in dressing. Islam particularly has gone a long way to preserve modesty among their women.

Being decently woman doesn’t mean being unfashionable woman. Take a look at the pictures of these 21st century dressing styles.

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These clothing do not expose too much skin, yet they are classy and trendy. However, dressing modestly is an individual decision. Every lady, young or old has to play her part in preserving decency and modesty in dressing, by keeping her sacred parts sacred.

Chizaram is a law student at the University of Nigeria Nsukka, Nigeria.

you can follow her on twitter @Chiezzy101

HITLER, THE HOLOCAUST AND ABORTION

United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon on the 18th of this month visited the Nazi concentration camp at Auschwitz-Birkenau in Poland, where millions of Jews and members of other minorities perished during the Second World War.

Auschwitz-Birkenau is not simply a register of atrocities,” Mr. Ban said. “In this haunting silence, we see the remnants of human life; we hear the cry of history and humanity. And through all of this, it becomes ever more clear that every life is precious. Every person matters1,” he stressed.

For our shared future, let us embrace our common duty as members of the human family to build a world of peace, justice, equality and human dignity for all,” he added.

The world must never forget, deny or downplay the Holocaust,” he said. “We must remain ever on our guard. And we must do more, far more, to promote equality and fundamental freedoms.”

He said that nothing can truly prepare a person for a visit to what he called “the epicentre of evil, where systematic murder unique in human history reached its atrocious climax.”

I stare at the piles of glasses, hair, shoes, prayer shawls and dolls, and try to imagine the individual Jews and others to whom they belonged,” he said. I stand in disbelief before the gas chambers and crematorium – and shudder at the cruelty of those who designed this death factory,” he added.

I am very impressed that Ban Ki-moon realises that every life is precious and every person matters. I think more than relegate this call only to the wave of anti-Semitism which is still in existence in places like Cambodia, Srebrenica, which is also important. I think Ban Ki- Moon should also call on Europe and America to also reaffirm the dignity of every human person.

During the Holocaust, we all know how one man, Hitler decided and ordered arbitrary that the Jews, people with disabilities, homosexuals, Jehovah Witness, and many others numbering over 11 to 17 million, should be exterminated from the surface of the earth, because they were seen as “parasitic” races or “untermenschen” (sub humans), since they were perceived to be dangerous to the society.

To achieve this aim, this Nazi government established concentration camps, gas chambers, and extermination camps, where millions of human beings were killed simply because they were Jews or Jehovah witness or “sub humans”.

The reason for referring to these groups of people as parasites or sub humans was because Hitler saw them as the problem of Germany and as hindrances to Germany’s economic and political supremacy.

How, is still yet to be found out.

This shows a culture where blames are apportioned wrongly while the real problems are left not tackled.

Although the Second World War ended officially in 1945. There is a Third World War which has a worse effect and it is targeted not towards the Jews this time but towards the unborn, women, the elderly, the sick and the physical impaired.

This Third World War is pushing for the elimination of some groups which is a continuation of seeing them as parasite and sub humans as hindrances to achieving one’s goal.

In today world, women are told that pregnancy is a “disease” which if accepted will deprive the women the opportunity of achieving her potentials when competing with her men folk. As such they have to “exterminate” the unborn since he/she is a parasite.

To achieve this, governments worldwide and international bodies helped established and are funding abortion clinics, which are the modern day gas chambers, and extermination camps.

In some places too, government have enacted laws which force medical practitioners to exterminate some groups of people like the sick or the elderly since they are only parasite on the government’s coffers.

Acts like this do not respect the conscience or right of the medical practitioners, like the soldiers during Hitler’s time; they either do their “duty” or forfeit their posts.

I too like shudder at the cruelty of those who designed and work at this modern death factory.

Once again, we all must fight to reaffirm that all human life from conception to natural death is precious which is also endowed with rights and freedom, prime among which is the right to life.

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Help save Obinna Divine Favour

 

Help save Obinna Divine Favour

By Nwachukwu Joshua

Obinna Divine Favour is 2 years and 6 months old. Unlike her peers she is unable to neither speak nor walk, because she has a hole in the heart which has hindered her development.

In the midst of this misfortune, her father abandoned her to her fate, leaving only the mother to cater for her.

In search for help, the mother, Odinaka Nwanze visited Kanu health foundation. The foundation claimed they could not help, but gave them the cost of Surgery if the go to India to the cost of N 1,879,000.

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The Mother of Obinna Divine Favour unfortunately cannot afford this, luckily there will be an operation at the University Of Nigeria Teaching Hospital (UNTH) this December which will cost 500,000 Naira. Still the family cannot afford it.

So they are calling on well-meaning people to help save the life of Obinna Divine Favour.

If you are willing to help Favour be like her normal peers. Kindly support her by sending your donations to:

  • Account name- Odinaka Nwanze
  • Account Number- 04640680015626, Bank- UBA
  • Her Contact Address is, No 58 Abakaliki Road, Emene Enugu

You can also help by sharing and liking this message so that it can get to a lot of people.

Thank you, as you lend a hand in saving the life of Obinna favour

 

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Should I have the abortion to keep my abusive boyfriend? asks a 15-year-old girl

Disclaimer: The picture of the girl is not the teen in question

By, Nwachukwu Joshua

A 15-year-old girl wrote to the UK Sheffield Star  advice columnists Jo Davison and Nik Brear, stating that her boyfriend punched her after she refused to have an abortion.

The teen said the two had been dating more than a year, loved each other, and felt having sex “had moved [our] relationship to the next level.” Then she found out she was expecting.

“Suddenly he doesn’t want to know me and has even hinted that he thinks the baby may not be his, which has hurt me so much,” she wrote. “He knows he is the only boy I have ever slept with.”

Her parents, after recovering from the understandable shock, “were great. They have supported me to make the decision that’s best for me. Which is, keeping the baby.”

“As soon as I knew I was pregnant I knew I couldn’t have an abortion,” she wrote.

“But my boyfriend has insisted that I have an abortion and told me that if I keep the baby he doesn’t want anything to do with it or me. A week ago, he got so angry about it that he slapped me,” she wrote.

The boyfriend later apologized “and cried,” saying having a baby would prevent them from excelling in school and their intended career as lawyers.

“Should I have the abortion to keep him, or should I listen to my what my heart and my parents are saying and be a single mum?” the teen asked.

This is part of the ills of abortion. It makes men treat women as tooth picks which they can use and drop at will.

With the abortion culture there is no love nor fidelity.

Approving or supporting abortion opens a gate wide open for women to be grossly violated.

TACKLING HUMAN TRAFFICKING IN NIGERIA

The law against trafficking must be strengthened

An International conference on trafficking in women and children was held last week at Terra Kulture, Lagos with the theme: “Women and children as new tools of trade in the 21st Century: Exploring policy, research, community and legal frameworks for addressing human trafficking.” At the sessions, several of the speakers described how the human trafficking victims – mostly hapless young women and girls in the age bracket of 10-21 years – are deceptively procured by some barons through their Nigerian agents. They are thereafter trafficked to different countries abroad where they suffer sexual exploitation, emotional distress, disorientation, depression and sometimes death.

The tales of what most of the victims go through are as gory as they are heart-rending. For instance, a social worker counselling some of the rescued girls detained at one of the shelters of the National Agency for the Prohibition of Traffic in Persons and Other Related Matters (NAPTIP) narrated how a 13-year old girl who was trafficked and detained at a certain sex camp abroad managed to telephone her mother and tearfully narrated how her traffickers were forcing her to “carry” at least six men every day. But the hapless mother could only advise her to continue to bear the burden.

What is even more disturbing is that this most heinous crime is no longer restricted to people. The growing trend now is trafficking in human organs and women embryos. At the conference, one of the speakers shocked the participants when he narrated how some Nigerian women are usually administered drugs that cause ovarian hyper stimulation in order to extract their eggs. In what was described as a booming trade, some women in Abuja are said to be selling their eggs for the sum of N500,000.

Beyond mere lamentation, now is the time for all level of governments, non-governmental organisations (NGOs), Churches and Mosques to pull resources together to effectively tackle the human trafficking scourge and its allied crime of organ trafficking. It is obvious that NAPTIP seems overwhelmed by the enormity of the challenge. Therefore the agency should seek the partnership of foreign human trafficking experts to assist it in the surveillance and monitoring of our porous borders.

There is also the legal angle to the menace. A study of the 208 convictions obtained by NAPTIP from 2004 to 2013 indicates that the punishment meted out to human trafficking offenders is ridiculous compared to the crime. Therefore the NAPTIP Act should be amended so that human trafficking offences will be punishable with long or mandatory sentences. It is a mockery of criminal justice to impose a three-year sentence with an option of fine on a person convicted of procuring young girls for prostitution abroad.

More importantly, government should tackle youth unemployment. It is obvious that an unemployed or underemployed hand is an easy prey. Most Nigerian girls become victims because of their quest for gainful employment and a better life abroad. Besides, the continuous pressures on the family in present times have resulted in some parents abandoning their primary responsibilities of raising their children in an upright manner. There is need for critical stakeholders, especially the religious institutions, to help in strengthening the family institution.

All said, trafficking in human person and in human organs in Nigeria cannot be combated without the effective reform of the country’s criminal justice system. The NAPTIP officials who attended last week conference cited corruption and slow judicial process as the main obstacles in bringing offenders to justice. Therefore Nigeria’s criminal justice system needs immediate overhauling. If crime investigation is carried out expeditiously, if suspects and witnesses are brought to court on hearing days, if there is no executive interference in the trial of high-profile criminal cases, and if criminal cases are not adjourned endlessly, many human and organ traffickers will be successfully prosecuted in court and brought to justice.

WOMAN MARRIES A BRIDGE

By Nwachukwu Joshua

Ever since legislators and judges in America and Europe invested themselves with the power to redefine  marriage as a union between any two consenting persons , it has left open the gates to persons to decide themselves what ideas like marriage, gender and sexuality means. Left also to the discretion of the people is to decide if “persons” include animals and non-living things etc. All these have been done under the pretext of respecting the freedom and private live of the citizens.

The approval of this unnatural acts by the tiers of government has unfortunately brought about an unhealthy precedent in the history of mankind.

Already we are not new to gay marriage and lesbianism which has suddenly gained support in the western world. Some are even seeing it as normal. But there also exist bestiality, which means having sex with animals, this has been approved in countries like USA  Belgium, Finland, Germany among others. We also hear of polyandry, which occurs when a woman marries more than one husband simultaneously.

Am sure with this, we will shout where the hell are we going to . Sorry, we are not even close to hell yet, the worst has not be heard.

This year around June, an  Australian artist Jodi Rose, exercising her so-called “freedom” got married to Le Pont du Diable Bridge, which is a bridge in southern France.

As such Mrs Le Pont du Diable, at the wedding ceremony which was blessed by the mayor  of the nearby town Saint-Jean-de-Fos before 14 witnesses,  promised to stand by her husband in sickness and in health, till death do them part.

Lets us not be apathetic in our fight to ensure that the traditional notion of marriage as a union between a man and a woman remains.

Peter Kreeft, a famous Boston professor, said that the first thing needed in a  war is to know that we are at a war, if not you would taken unawares and obviously will be beaten flawlessly. Nigeria is under serious pressure to approve same-sex marriage, which is the master-key to other societal ills. lets us be aware and condemn it.

If we are not proactive in our fight the next generation would be surprised to hear that men ever married women, since they will only be seeing human beings marrying animals and objects like bicycle and refrigerators.

 

Pope Francis Kisses A Disfigured Man

 

Some days ago, Pope Francis kissed and blessed a man suffering from severe facial disfigurement during his audience in St. Peter’s Square.

I am sure many persons will feel disgusted and wonder why this man has not killed himself to “spare” us the irritation.

If we are thinking this way sorry.it is only a sign of one’s selfishness and lack of love. I am sure this man would have been traumatized with this illness, insulting him or avoiding him would traumatize him the more, but with the kisses of the Pope and the great attention the Pope paid to him,which has not been shown to great world leaders or apparently important people. He realizes that he is still a human being despite his external illness.

We should also respect and love everyone and care for them despite their limitations or defects.

No doubt, it is challenging it is worth a trial.

Say No to Human Trafficking

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Sorry dear readers for the break for over 3 weeks, I was preoccupied helping in the organization of the third international law conference on women and children, which was held in Terra kulture, Victoria Island. With the theme,  Women and children as new tools of trade in the 21st century: exploring policy, research, community and legal frameworks for addressing human trafficking.

The two-day conference ended yesterday and it was a great success.

The speakers included the likes of  Hon Funmi Tejuoso from the Lagos state House of Assembly, NAPTIP representatives from Abuja, Lagos and Benin, Didi Bedell from the Nigerian Law reform commission, Adesuwa Onyenokwe publisher of today’s Woman, Patrick Oke, Prof Osita Agbu from the Nigerian Institute of International Affairs. Franca Attoh from the department of sociology, University of Lagos,  Dr Philip Njemanze , a world-renowned neuroscientist, known for his neuroscience revolutionary light theory of brain functional asymmetry , Ifeyinwa Mbakogu from the school of social work, McGill University, Montreal, Canada, Barr. Sonnie Ekwowusi, Legal practitioner and a member of  the editorial Board of Thisday  Newspaper and a host of others.

Among the issues discussed in the conference were:

  • challenges in addressing the prevalence of trafficking in the Nigerian women and children
  • Preventing Human trafficking: the place of the family, vulnerable youths and other unexplored triggers
  • Human organ trafficking, and a host of other interesting papers

The main message from the conference is this, not only is human trafficking a crime against the law both locally and internationally, it is also a crime against humanity, and most especially manhood, which  seems to be a big market for women who are mostly trafficked for sexual exploitation.

The ills and damages of trafficking are inexplicable. That’s why participants at the conference resolved that a key towards bring human trafficking to the barest minimum is the need for the family to retake its position as the first educators of their children, so as to inculcate proper values and morals.

It is time that we join forces with NAPTIP  to torpedo the menace called human trafficking, over the week, more issues on the conference will be discussed on this blog.